Monday, June 18, 2007

It's Not Just a Health Matter; It's a Pleasure Thing

First and foremost, it is always recommended that you use a lubricant when engaging in activities with sex toys.
It's not just a health matter; it's a pleasure thing. A well-chosen lubricant can dramatically enhance your sexual ecstasy and experience, adding delightful smoothness and sensations to anytype of stimulation while reducing friction on sensitive genital tissue.

Whether your self-pleasuring, using a toy, or engaging in passionate intercourse, lubrication increases your sensitivity by creating smoother, slipperier, and softer surfaces.

Lubes are manufactured in many different consistencies, colors, and even flavors to match the variety of lubrication applications. It is best to experiment and find the right one for you and for your sex toy. Lubricants make sex toys or masturbation feel more realistic.

Ask yourself what you want most in a lubricant, and what you'll be using it for: solo sex, toy fun, a combination of sex toys and your partner, bath time fun? Is it for vaginal intercourse? Is it for anal penetration? Is it for masturbation? Once you've answered those questions, and read our guide you'll be well on to your way to choosing a lube.

Currently three kinds of base for lubricants exist: water-based oil-based, and silicone.

Water Based

Water based lubricants are made mostly of water and are safe to use with all sex toys, condoms, or diaphragms. They are similar to the feel of natural vaginal fluids and today's modern high quality water based lubricants offer long lasting lubrication, while not staining or becoming sticky. They also offer a "wetter" more gliding feel than the oil-based lubricants. Water-based lubricants often feature a variety of flavors or colors to make using lubricant more appealing for couples but if you are looking for an internal vaginal lubricant, Make sure the one you choose does not contain sugar as this can cause yeast infections in women. Water-based lubricants are your best bet for all purpose lubes, as they can be used for all intended purposes.

Popular water based lubes :
Wet Original,WetLight,Climax H2o,Probe,Hydra Smooth,IDGlide, ID Pleasure,Moist

Silicone Based

Silicone lubricants give us the best of both worlds: the highly arousing slick feels of oil plus the safety-first advantages of water-based lube. Silicone based lubricants are similar to the water based variety, in that they are safe to use with condoms and latex or rubber sex toys but they have the added advantage of being waterproof which makes them incredible for use in the water. They are generally a bit more expensive, but also are more concentrated and longer lasting than water based lubricants, so a little bit goes much further. They can, however, cause sex toys that are made from silicone or realistic materials such as CyberSkin or UR3 to break down so make sure not to use them together.

Popular silicone lubes: ID Velvet,ID Millenium,Pjur Eros Original,Moist Gel

Oil Based

Oil-based lubricants are usually made from natural products, such as vegetable oils and nut oils and have a thick, rich texture that enhances your sensitivity and provides extremely cushioned friction. However ones needs to be careful when using oil based lubricants as Oil destroys latex on contact, which means you can't use it with condoms or diaphragms, and it stains fabric, so be careful.

Popular oils based lubricants: ID Cream

Some women believe that because they lubricate naturally, they don't need a lube. Every couple will find their lovemaking benefits from the use of lube. Even if you're the type of woman whose natural lube needs very little persuasion, an extra lubricant can add a whole new dimension to sex, helping you and your partner pick up sensations you've never felt before.

Every woman goes through certain days within the menstrual cycle, just after childbirth, during or after the menopause when natural lubrication needs a helping hand and on these occasions lube provides a simple, fun and highly effective way of continuing a healthy sex-life. Stress, tiredness, some over the counter drugs and the pill can also contribute to a dryer than normal vagina so make sure you use a lubricant during these times to ensure a healthy and pleasurable sex life.

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Sunday, June 03, 2007

How To Sweep A Woman Off Her Feet

By: Abbas Abedi



As much as you probably hate to hear it, guys, if you want to sweep her off her feet, the best cool guys guide to romance is found in a chick flick. You may cringe when we say that, and you may hate the idea of hearts and flowers, but if you want to really sweep her off her feet, these are the best guides to romance for guys.

Women want to feel special. They want to feel singled out, and they must know that you think of them as your one and only. If you're thinking monogamy, spell it out. If you're thinking "I love you" don't expect that because you return to her every night, that you bring her your paycheck, and all the other mundane day to day things you do because you're supposed to, are going to sweep her off her feet. The best guide to romance we can offer is to do the unexpected, the warm, the tender, and the sweet. Be spontaneous. Be one of those guys on the chick flicks that always get the girl in the end.

Here are some specific romance guide things you cool guys can do to sweep her off her feet.

Remember the old adage "it's the thought that counts". That doesn't mean you have license to have "planned to get something for her birthday", but other things got in the way. It means that if the dinner you cooked her didn't turn out so great, or the size peignoir you bought was wrong, it's still okay. Because you were thoughtful enough to do it.

I had a friend who left her long time partner. To folks on the outside he seemed loving and devoted and giving. He always remembered occasions and bought her nice things. The problem? He didn't buy her things she wanted. Instead he bought her things that he wanted her to want. Sometimes he gave her the money to go pick out something she wanted, or took her to the store to pick put the present she wanted. To some this might seem considerate. To my friend the first seemed controlling. The latter seemed that she wasn't important enough for him to take the time to choose something for her on his own and take the time to have it wrapped. It didn't sweep her off her feet. It was far from the cool guys guide to romance.

You can sweep her off her feet by making something for her. This is one of the coolest things that cool guys can do to romance the woman they love. It doesn't have to be perfect or costly. I calendar with pictures of the two of you together - or a photo album of your favorite moments together. All of these thoughtfully designed things can really sweep her off her feet. These are some of your best tips to enhance your dating and romance.

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Friday, June 01, 2007

Single Men and the One Night Stand



There is a science to the one night stand, that blissful state where you end up having sex with a woman just a few hours after you have met. Certainly, having a one night stand is not for every man because it requires a few basics, such as an innate confidence, some conversational skills and an understanding of women in general.

It's actually easier to try to get them into bed after a few dates but this often involves a play of emotions that not all men welcome. For men who only want sex - and that's in reference to more than 90% of the blokes out there - the one night stand is the way to go.

One of the most important things about landing a one night stand is picking the right woman. You may not know it but there are actually women out there who are looking for a one night stand or who, at the very least, will be susceptible to your advances. It is your job to spot them.

There are several things to look for in reading this kind of woman. Look for a woman who dresses provocatively and wears little clothing. The logical reason is that she dresses this way to let men know she's available, but there's also a biological reason: when a woman ovulates, she is in heat like other mammals and subconsciously dresses to attract males.

Older women (mid to late-twenties and thirties) have the benefit of experience and are generally more fun-loving and adventurous, so they will make a good choice. Look for someone who is comfortable with her looks because a self-conscious woman will not be relaxed enough to sleep with you. Some guys believe that a woman with low self-esteem is easier to bed although she is difficult to spot.

Once you've approached the right woman, try to build a connection by speaking her language, mirroring her motions and giving her subtle compliments. You want her to feel that "I've known this guy for years." Your goal is to get her to relax and let her guard down. Sometimes, a little alcohol can help.

Sooner or later, steer the conversation towards sex to open her mind to the possibility of a one night stand. Do this subtly by asking probing questions about what excites her about a man, about her past and her personal preferences. Check her out for signs that she is interested in you, such as non-stop flirting, twirling her hair, moving in close to you and showing you her palms and wrists.

Once she is clearly interested, the masters at this game have a favorite ploy that always continues to amaze. They set their hook and then simply pull away. They pretend to lose interest, perhaps even saying their goodbyes and then starting to turn and walk away. This kind of reaction can jolt a woman as she sees the night's promise of excitement and pleasure begin to slip away. She won't be able to resist and will likely chase you and say, "Oh wait."

The trick is to make her think that sleeping together was her idea. If she thinks that is what you had in mind all along, she may pull away. But now, she's asking you to wait. This is the perfect time for you to tell her that you're tired of the bar and would like to go someplace else, like her place.

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Wednesday, May 30, 2007

Can The Most Popular Pheromones Get You The Sex You Want?

By Dean Caporella

So you want to give these pheromones a try? You've heard a lot about them, your sex life sucks and they are almost a last resort. Next step is to find out what the most popular pheromones on the market are, right?

You won't be disappointed given the number of pheromone reviews available but seriously, you don't really believe a cologne or perfume is the answer to your lack of sex do you? Time for a reality check.

Most Popular Pheromones

Unless you have a lab in your home and can test the products you purchase for synthetic pheromones then it's a little like Russian roulette choosing the best pheromone product on the market. Many people will just simply go from product to product hoping they find the answer to solving their lack of sex. Realistically, a pheromone product isn't going to get you laid just by spraying a little on your wrists or on your neckline.

Reviewing Pheromones

One of the big advantages for companies who have their product continually researched and tested is they can continually evolve and improve it. How do you find the most popular pheromones? It may take a little trial and error but these should get you off to a good start.

Athena Pheromones is one such product and given it's longevity in a relatively young industry, it should really be your first stop when shopping for pheromones for the first time. Dr. Winifred Cutler's findings have been well documented and you can be safe in the knowledge she knows her stuff.

Pherlure Cologne is another product which has gained popularity. It has undergone some extensive testing itself and offers a unique ingredient within it's product. It is also very affordable and is worth checking out.

Love Scent offers shoppers not only pheromone products but is a very good resource for those wanting to become familiar with the ins and outs of pheromones and how they work.

They are just three sites worth taking a look at when shopping for pheromones. Many pheromone devotees will hop from one product to the other looking for that something extra but if you stumble across a product you like, provides a desirable fragrance and seems to do the job for you then it's a good idea to stick with it.

Pheromone Facts

Pheromones don't control people. They are designed to affect people in either a positive or negative way. It's believed they produce an air of confidence in the person wearing the product which makes them a more attractive person to be around.

Do Pheromones Really Work - Is It Just Hype?

It's important to remember pheromones on their own won't get you laid. You would be fooling yourself if you thought that was the case. As a conversation starter, yes, they can be effective.

Let's face it, just simply splashing a little cologne on the body is not going to light the imaginary neon sign above your head which says..."Come get me!" Pheromones are designed to instill an air of confidence in the wearer and this confidence is then portrayed outwardly. If you find yourself getting involved in more conversations than usual at your local nightclub then maybe the magic is working. But it's then up to you to be able to take it to the next level.

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Thursday, January 25, 2007

My wife and I used to have sex every night; now I’m lucky if it’s once a week

A Rest assured, it’s not just you who have uneventful bedtimes. A UK survey shows 35 per cent of us are having sex just once a week. While most people want the world to think their sex life is more rampant than 9 1/2 Weeks, in reality it’s more similar to One Foot in the Grave. “Out of the 40 per cent who claim to have sex more than three times a week, most are probably overestimating,” believes Dr Sarah Brewer, author of Increase Your Sex Drive (Thorsons). “In long term relationships it’s natural for sex to decline after three years,” she adds.

But you can always boost your sex life. Try the herbal extract epimedium, which is sold under the name Horny goat weed online. In clinical trials it’s been found to be effective for increasing both men’s and women’s libidos in two out of three cases, with no serious side effects.

Thursday, January 04, 2007

Impotence

What is impotence?
Erectile dysfunction, sometimes called "impotence," is the repeated inability to get or keep an erection firm enough for sexual intercourse. The word impotence may also be used to describe other problems that interfere with sexual intercourse and reproduction, such as lack of sexual desire and problems with ejaculation or orgasm. Using the term erectile dysfunction makes it clear that those other problems are not involved.

Erectile dysfunction, or ED, can be a total inability to achieve erection, an inconsistent ability to do so or a tendency to sustain only brief erections. These variations make defining ED and estimating its incidence difficult. Estimates range from 15 million to 30 million, depending on the definition used. According to the National Ambulatory Medical Care Survey (NAMCS), for every 1,000 men in the United States, 7.7 physician office visits were made for ED in 1985. By 1999, that rate had nearly tripled to 22.3. The increase happened gradually, presumably as treatments such as vacuum devices and injectable drugs became more widely available and discussing erectile function became accepted. Perhaps the most publicized advance was the introduction of the oral drug sildenafil citrate (Viagra) in March 1998. NAMCS data on new drugs show an estimated 2.6 million mentions of Viagra at physician office visits in 1999, and one-third of those mentions occurred during visits for a diagnosis other than ED.

In older men, ED usually has a physical cause, such as disease, injury or side effects of drugs. Any disorder that causes injury to the nerves or impairs blood flow in the penis has the potential to cause ED. Incidence increases with age: About 5 percent of 40-year-old men and between 15 and 25 percent of 65-year-old men experience ED. But it is not an inevitable part of aging.

ED is treatable at any age, and awareness of this fact has been growing. More men have been seeking help and returning to normal sexual activity because of improved, successful treatments for ED. Urologists, who specialize in problems of the urinary tract, have traditionally treated ED; however, urologists accounted for only 25 percent of Viagra mentions in 1999.

How does an erection occur?
The penis contains two chambers called the corpora cavernosa, which run the length of the organ. A spongy tissue fills the chambers. The corpora cavernosa are surrounded by a membrane, called the tunica albuginea. The spongy tissue contains smooth muscles, fibrous tissues, spaces, veins and arteries. The urethra, which is the channel for urine and ejaculate, runs along the underside of the corpora cavernosa and is surrounded by the corpus spongiosum.

Erection begins with sensory or mental stimulation, or both. Impulses from the brain and local nerves cause the muscles of the corpora cavernosa to relax, allowing blood to flow in and fill the spaces. The blood creates pressure in the corpora cavernosa, making the penis expand. The tunica albuginea helps trap the blood in the corpora cavernosa, thereby sustaining erection. When muscles in the penis contract to stop the inflow of blood and open outflow channels, erection is reversed.
What causes erectile dysfunction (ED)?
Since an erection requires a precise sequence of events, ED can occur when any of the events is disrupted. The sequence includes nerve impulses in the brain, spinal column and area around the penis, and response in muscles, fibrous tissues, veins and arteries in and near the corpora cavernosa.

Damage to nerves, arteries, smooth muscles and fibrous tissues, often as a result of disease, is the most common cause of ED. Diseases — such as diabetes, kidney disease, chronic alcoholism, multiple sclerosis, atherosclerosis, vascular disease and neurologic disease — account for about 70 percent of ED cases. Between 35 and 50 percent of men with diabetes experience ED.

Lifestyle choices that contribute to heart disease and vascular problems also raise the risk of erectile dysfunction. Smoking, being overweight and avoiding exercise are possible causes of ED.

Also, surgery (especially radical prostate and bladder surgery for cancer) can injure nerves and arteries near the penis, causing ED. Injury to the penis, spinal cord, prostate, bladder and pelvis can lead to ED by harming nerves, smooth muscles, arteries and fibrous tissues of the corpora cavernosa.

In addition, many common medicines — blood pressure drugs, antihistamines, antidepressants, tranquilizers, appetite suppressants and cimetidine (an ulcer drug) — can produce ED as a side effect.

Experts believe that psychological factors such as stress, anxiety, guilt, depression, low self-esteem and fear of sexual failure cause 10 to 20 percent of ED cases. Men with a physical cause for ED frequently experience the same sort of psychological reactions (stress, anxiety, guilt, depression). Other possible causes are smoking, which affects blood flow in veins and arteries, and hormonal abnormalities, such as not enough testosterone.

How is ED diagnosed?

Patient History
Medical and sexual histories help define the degree and nature of ED. A medical history can disclose diseases that lead to ED, while a simple recounting of sexual activity might distinguish among problems with sexual desire, erection, ejaculation or orgasm.

Using certain prescription or illegal drugs can suggest a chemical cause, since drug effects account for 25 percent of ED cases. Cutting back on or substituting certain medications can often alleviate the problem.

Physical Examination
A physical examination can give clues to systemic problems. For example, if the penis is not sensitive to touching, a problem in the nervous system may be the cause. Abnormal secondary sex characteristics, such as hair pattern or breast enlargement, can point to hormonal problems, which would mean that the endocrine system is involved. The examiner might discover a circulatory problem by observing decreased pulses in the wrist or ankles. And unusual characteristics of the penis itself could suggest the source of the problem-for example, a penis that bends or curves when erect could be the result of Peyronie's disease.

Laboratory Tests
Several laboratory tests can help diagnose ED. Tests for systemic diseases include blood counts, urinalysis, lipid profile and measurements of creatinine and liver enzymes. Measuring the amount of free testosterone in the blood can yield information about problems with the endocrine system and is indicated especially in patients with decreased sexual desire.

Other Tests
Monitoring erections that occur during sleep (nocturnal penile tumescence) can help rule out certain psychological causes of ED. Healthy men have involuntary erections during sleep. If nocturnal erections do not occur, then ED is likely to have a physical rather than psychological cause. Tests of nocturnal erections are not completely reliable, however. Scientists have not standardized such tests and have not determined when they should be applied for best results.

Psychosocial Examination
A psychosocial examination, using an interview and a questionnaire, reveals psychological factors. A man's sexual partner may also be interviewed to determine expectations and perceptions during sexual intercourse.

How is ED treated?
Most physicians suggest that treatments proceed from least to most invasive. For some men, making a few healthy lifestyle changes may solve the problem. Quitting smoking, losing excess weight and increasing physical activity may help some men regain sexual function.

Cutting back on any drugs with harmful side effects is considered next. For example, drugs for high blood pressure work in different ways. If you think a particular drug is causing problems with erection, tell your doctor and ask whether you can try a different class of blood pressure medicine.

Psychotherapy and behavior modifications in selected patients are considered next if indicated, followed by oral or locally injected drugs, vacuum devices and surgically implanted devices. In rare cases, surgery involving veins or arteries may be considered.

Psychotherapy
Experts often treat psychologically based ED using techniques that decrease the anxiety associated with intercourse. The patient's partner can help with the techniques, which include gradual development of intimacy and stimulation. Such techniques also can help relieve anxiety when ED from physical causes is being treated.

Drug Therapy
Drugs for treating ED can be taken orally, injected directly into the penis or inserted into the urethra at the tip of the penis. In March 1998, the Food and Drug Administration (FDA) approved Viagra, the first pill to treat ED. Since that time, vardenafil hydrochloride (Levitra) and tadalafil (Cialis) have also been approved. Additional oral medicines are being tested for safety and effectiveness.

Viagra, Levitra and Cialis all belong to a class of drugs called phosphodiesterase (PDE) inhibitors. Taken an hour before sexual activity, these drugs work by enhancing the effects of nitric oxide, a chemical that relaxes smooth muscles in the penis during sexual stimulation and allows increased blood flow.

While oral medicines improve the response to sexual stimulation, they do not trigger an automatic erection as injections do. The recommended dose for Viagra is 50 mg, and the physician may adjust this dose to 100 mg or 25 mg, depending on the patient. The recommended dose for either Levitra or Cialis is 10 mg, and the physician may adjust this dose to 20 mg if 10 mg is insufficient. A lower dose of 5 mg is available for patients who take other medicines or have conditions that may decrease the body's ability to use the drug. Levitra is also available in a 2.5 mg dose.

None of these PDE inhibitors should be used more than once a day. Men who take nitrate-based drugs such as nitroglycerin for heart problems should not use either drug because the combination can cause a sudden drop in blood pressure. Also, tell your doctor if you take any drugs called alpha-blockers, which are used to treat prostate enlargement or high blood pressure. Your doctor may need to adjust your ED prescription. Taking a PDE inhibitor and an alpha-blocker at the same time (within four hours) can cause a sudden drop in blood pressure.

Oral testosterone can reduce ED in some men with low levels of natural testosterone, but it is often ineffective and may cause liver damage. Patients also have claimed that other oral drugs — including yohimbine hydrochloride, dopamine and serotonin agonists and trazodone — are effective, but the results of scientific studies to substantiate these claims have been inconsistent. Improvements observed following use of these drugs may be examples of the placebo effect, that is, a change that results simply from the patient's believing that an improvement will occur.

Many men achieve stronger erections by injecting drugs into the penis, causing it to become engorged with blood. Drugs such as papaverine hydrochloride, phentolamine, and alprostadil (marketed as Caverject) widen blood vessels. These drugs may create unwanted side effects, however, including persistent erection (known as priapism) and scarring. Nitroglycerin, a muscle relaxant, can sometimes enhance erection when rubbed on the penis.

A system for inserting a pellet of alprostadil into the urethra is marketed as Muse. The system uses a prefilled applicator to deliver the pellet about an inch deep into the urethra. An erection will begin within eight to 10 minutes and may last 30 to 60 minutes. The most common side effects are aching in the penis, testicles and area between the penis and rectum; warmth or burning sensation in the urethra; redness from increased blood flow to the penis; and minor urethral bleeding or spotting.

Research on drugs for treating ED is expanding rapidly. Patients should ask their doctor about the latest advances.

Vacuum Devices
Mechanical vacuum devices cause erection by creating a partial vacuum, which draws blood into the penis, engorging and expanding it. The devices have three components: a plastic cylinder, into which the penis is placed; a pump, which draws air out of the cylinder; and an elastic band, which is placed around the base of the penis to maintain the erection after the cylinder is removed and during intercourse by preventing blood from flowing back into the body. One variation of the vacuum device involves a semirigid rubber sheath that is placed on the penis and remains there after erection is attained and during intercourse.

Surgery
Surgery usually has one of three goals:

  • To implant a device that can cause the penis to become erect
  • To reconstruct arteries to increase flow of blood to the penis
  • To block off veins that allow blood to leak from the penile tissues

Implanted devices, known as prostheses, can restore erection in many men with ED. Possible problems with implants include mechanical breakdown and infection, although mechanical problems have diminished in recent years because of technological advances.

Malleable implants usually consist of paired rods, which are inserted surgically into the corpora cavernosa. The user manually adjusts the position of the penis and, therefore, the rods. Adjustment does not affect the width or length of the penis.

Inflatable implants consist of paired cylinders, which are surgically inserted inside the penis and can be expanded using pressurized fluid . Tubes connect the cylinders to a fluid reservoir and a pump, which are also surgically implanted. The patient inflates the cylinders by pressing on the small pump, located under the skin in the scrotum. Inflatable implants can expand the length and width of the penis somewhat. They also leave the penis in a more natural state when not inflated.

Surgery to repair arteries can reduce ED caused by obstructions that block the flow of blood. The best candidates for such surgery are young men with discrete blockage of an artery because of an injury to the crotch or fracture of the pelvis. The procedure is almost never successful in older men with widespread blockage.

Surgery to veins that allow blood to leave the penis usually involves an opposite procedure — intentional blockage. Blocking off veins (ligation) can reduce the leakage of blood that diminishes the rigidity of the penis during erection. However, experts have raised questions about the long-term effectiveness of this procedure, and it is rarely done.

Hope Through Research
Advances in suppositories, injectable medications, implants and vacuum devices have expanded the options for men seeking treatment for ED. These advances have also helped increase the number of men seeking treatment. Gene therapy for ED is now being tested in several centers and may offer a long-lasting therapeutic approach for ED.